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Kindness can be the norm.

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  Have you ever practiced a random act of kindness? Through social media, we have seen extravagant tips left for waitresses, cars presented to co-workers, groceries covered, and money handed out. A random act of kindness does not have to be a grand gesture. It can be a simple, thoughtful gesture; given without expectations of receiving anything in return. If you have received a Random Act of Kindness - isn’t it amazing how powerful and wonderful that memory is? And weren’t you immediately inspired to do the same for someone else? If we all practice kindness, kindness can be the norm.

Toxic People

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Feeling confused by having a toxic person in your life? You are not alone. Many of us have experienced a toxic relationship at one time or another or we have had to work in a toxic environment. What is it about a toxic personality that is so difficult and exhausting to be around? Toxic people can be cruel, controlling, self-absorbed, criticizing, bullying, manipulating, and always seem to be immersed in drama. They can make a mountain out of a molehill and make you the reason for their discontent; they can turn a great day into a sour one. Creating emotional space from someone who is toxic is important. Recognize what issues are yours and what issues are theirs and don’t get drawn in. Set boundaries for yourself, decide what you will and will not tolerate and if possible, limit your time together. If you live with a toxic person, create an emotional safe space where you can get away from them and take a breather. Emotionally detach from them. In some cases,...

Thinking Before Speaking

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  “ A fool is made more of a fool when their mouth is more open than their mind, ” — Anthony Liccione Thinking before speaking may save us from an uttered blunder, but putting this into practice and living it may actually be more beneficial than saving us from an embarrassing conversation contribution. Communicating correctly and speaking with intent helps us within our personal and business relationships. Being clear and decisive about what you mean when you say it, keeps others from having to interpret your intent. Words are powerful and cannot be unsaid or unheard once said; thinking first can lead to impactful conversations without regret or the need for apology. How to Think Before You Speak: Pause and think - think about what you are about to say and the repercussions it may have. Analyze and filter - is it appropriate, am I revealing too much? Pause and question to clarify - asking questions helps to provide appropriate responses Sometimes not responding is a good respons...

Therapist Highlight: Scott Fralick

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  “We are all on a spectrum, whether you are gay, bi, straight - whether you are pan-sexual, demi-sexual, it doesn’t matter. To me, what matters is that you are happy and that you are satisfied in who and what you want to be.” - Scott Fralick I work with a lot of different clients and specialize in seeing clients from the LGBTQ+ community. I have some clients that are poly, some that are open, some that are questioning. I try to help everyone. I probably offer more self-disclosure than most therapists, I talk about my husband, I talk about polyamory, I talk about open relationships, and I am comfortable with that. Because I treat everyone like I would like to be treated, clients find it easy to have a rapport with me. I am always genuine and authentic and I provide a safe place for difficult discussions about sexuality, relationships, anxiety, grief, trauma, and identity role confusion. I also have experience working with couples on relationship issues and working with families to...